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Becoming more self-aware

From our own perspectives of supporting people through crises over the past 20 years, We have experienced first hand how a high level of self-awareness of that person directly impacts how they weather the storm. We are all in relationship…
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Help – I’m married and have fallen for someone else

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change…
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On being parented by the “victim”

My father has been away for a few weeks and I’ve been feeling good. When he is away my joints don’t ache. Last night he called and our conversation was pleasant as they often are. We have rebuilt bridges over the past two years, including…
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Mid life transitions and mid life crises

A mid-life crisis, transition or transformation is usually experienced around the age of 40 plus or minus 20 years. One of the first to write on the subject was the psychologist Carl Jungwho struggled in his own mid-life and came up with the…
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Men and mid-life affairs

From the time we are little boys, men are programmed – both socially conditioned and psychologically hard-wired to prove themselves, to make a name for themselves. Consequently, they experience life in a superficial way, almost inevitably…
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A psychotherapist's experience of love addiction

An article from a US psychiatric journal dropped into my in-box: “Hooked on Messy Loving”? Usually I press delete. Or forward to my friend and colleague with a mutually understood sigh. We psychotherapists can be a little suspicious around…
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What's love really got to do with it?

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Valentine’s Day has been and gone. While the greetings card and flower industries are measuring their takings, most of us go back to ordinary worries around our relationships: are we in one? Can we stay in…