Beyond Binary – Secrets, shame and the non-hetro-normal

Secrets and shame can seem like the vert landscape of couples psychotherapy.  At LoveRelations, we work with couples from all walks of life – married, co-habiting, same-sex, mixed race, none of the above.  Many come and talk about “lack…
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Sex, shame and silence

There is no area of behaviour that human beings feel more shame around than sex. We can perhaps understand some of the origins of this culture of shame when we look at the historical values of religion or even modern sex education, with its…

Men, the mid life crisis and male rites of passage

Introduction “The worst of it all is that intelligent and cultivated people live their lives without even knowing of the possibility of such transformations. Thoroughly unprepared we take the step into the afternoon of life; worse still,…
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The Reality Distortion Field When in the Fog of an Affair.

Week in week out I sit across from clients that are blinded, paralysed and entombed by the fog of an affair. These include the overwhelming feelings of infatuation and limerence, the latter being a debilitating condition involving romantic longing…
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Blended Families – The Impact of a Partner’s Children on your Relationship

There are no clear statistics on step-families in the UK, but recent estimates suggest that one-in-four families is a “blended family” ie where a couple lives with one or more children from a previous relationship. Parenting brings challenges…
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The Seven Issues That Make Or Break A Relationship

“What’s the key to a good relationship?” is one the of questions we are often asked at LoveRelations. “Finding your partner attractive? No money worries? Shared interests?” While these are all important, there are seven issues or Relationship…
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Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

Is it possible to rebuild trust in a relationship after an affair? Dr David Perl, specialist couples psychotherapist and founder of LoveRelations, believes this is one of the biggest challenges a couple faces. “Over a third of the couples…
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Jealousy and Insecurity - What's ruining your relationship?

It is a common misconception that jealousy is a sign of love.  Shakespeare, writing about “the green eyed monster” knew as much when he created Othello.  Othello, filled with jealousy and suspicion, fuelled by Iago, goes on to murder his…
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Can love survive a mis-matched libido?

February 14th is Valentine’s Day.  Shops and restaurants have been full of heart shaped images and flowers, since the Christmas decorations came down.  Advertisers are flooding our screen with images of couples in passionate embraces. …