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One Wish

I have often thought over the years that if I had just one wish what would that be? What would I change, do different or ask for? Many times I've daydreamed about one thing or another and thought my life would be better, more complete, happier,…
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Understanding Our Emotional Needs is NOT easy - but it CAN be -

I rarely publish other blogger's articles unless I feel there is some value in doing so. The following article penned by  psychotherapy colleague Peter Mullhall is one of these rare gems. It is an excellent article describing how our emotional…
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Should I go? Should I stay? - Separation

Separating with Sense We use this term because for many relationships where one or both partners wish to go their separate ways, all rational thinking and sense goes out of the window!! The reality is that understanding the dynamics involved…
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How the cracks came and went - Ruth's perspective on the challenges of marriage

The relationship with my husband although good and solid on many levels, was after 20 years starting to show the signs of cracks in our otherwise stable marriage. It is since I finished many years of personal therapy and completed my training…
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Becoming more self-aware

From our own perspectives of supporting people through crises over the past 20 years, We have experienced first hand how a high level of self-awareness of that person directly impacts how they weather the storm. We are all in relationship…
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Help – I’m married and have fallen for someone else

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change…
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On being parented by the “victim”

My father has been away for a few weeks and I’ve been feeling good. When he is away my joints don’t ache. Last night he called and our conversation was pleasant as they often are. We have rebuilt bridges over the past two years, including…
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Mid life transitions and mid life crises

A mid-life crisis, transition or transformation is usually experienced around the age of 40 plus or minus 20 years. One of the first to write on the subject was the psychologist Carl Jungwho struggled in his own mid-life and came up with the…
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Men and mid-life affairs

From the time we are little boys, men are programmed – both socially conditioned and psychologically hard-wired to prove themselves, to make a name for themselves. Consequently, they experience life in a superficial way, almost inevitably…