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Sex, shame and silence

There is no area of behaviour that human beings feel more shame around than sex. We can perhaps understand some of the origins of this culture of shame when we look at the historical values of religion or even modern sex education, with its…
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Blended Families – The Impact of a Partner’s Children on your Relationship

There are no clear statistics on step-families in the UK, but recent estimates suggest that one-in-four families is a “blended family” ie where a couple lives with one or more children from a previous relationship. Parenting brings challenges…
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Jealousy and Insecurity - What's ruining your relationship?

It is a common misconception that jealousy is a sign of love.  Shakespeare, writing about “the green eyed monster” knew as much when he created Othello.  Othello, filled with jealousy and suspicion, fuelled by Iago, goes on to murder his…
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Can love survive a mis-matched libido?

February 14th is Valentine’s Day.  Shops and restaurants have been full of heart shaped images and flowers, since the Christmas decorations came down.  Advertisers are flooding our screen with images of couples in passionate embraces. …
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“The Perfect Christmas” – An unbearable strain on any relationship?

There are points in every year where relationships come under extra pressure: Summer holidays, new school terms, Valentine’s Day of course, Christmas.  According to the mental health charity, Mind, one in three of us actively “dreads Christmas”. Ruth…
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Jealousy, Insecurity & Unbearable Anxiety

“Every time he checks his phone, I’m convinced it’s another woman”.  “When she says she’s going for a drink after work, I start to feel sick with dread…” “I used to be quite independent.  Now I can barely concentrate for…
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Romance and communication

With Valentines day now passed, I start to wonder if those husbands, wives and partners sigh in relief at another one gone? The media whip up the importance of romance and love all wrapped up in red roses, chocolates and candle light dinners.…