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Money and Relationships

Money, despite what any of us want to believe about “love conquering all”, matters more than almost other issue in relationships.  According to one US survey, money is the number one issue married couples fight about.  In the UK, money…
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The Reality Distortion Field When in the Fog of an Affair.

Week in week out I sit across from clients that are blinded, paralysed and entombed by the fog of an affair. These include the overwhelming feelings of infatuation and limerence, the latter being a debilitating condition involving romantic longing…
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Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

Is it possible to rebuild trust in a relationship after an affair? Dr David Perl, specialist couples psychotherapist and founder of LoveRelations, believes this is one of the biggest challenges a couple faces. “Over a third of the couples…
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Jealousy and Insecurity - What's ruining your relationship?

It is a common misconception that jealousy is a sign of love.  Shakespeare, writing about “the green eyed monster” knew as much when he created Othello.  Othello, filled with jealousy and suspicion, fuelled by Iago, goes on to murder his…
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Can love survive a mis-matched libido?

February 14th is Valentine’s Day.  Shops and restaurants have been full of heart shaped images and flowers, since the Christmas decorations came down.  Advertisers are flooding our screen with images of couples in passionate embraces. …
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“The Perfect Christmas” – An unbearable strain on any relationship?

There are points in every year where relationships come under extra pressure: Summer holidays, new school terms, Valentine’s Day of course, Christmas.  According to the mental health charity, Mind, one in three of us actively “dreads Christmas”. Ruth…
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Pornography in your Relationship – Harmless Distraction or Ruinous Addiction?

Pornography has never been so easy to get hold of.  Internet porn, offers images from the mildly titillating to the hard-core, at the click of a button, free to lap-tops, smart phones and tablets.  A recent study into on-line porn addiction…
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Jealousy, Insecurity & Unbearable Anxiety

“Every time he checks his phone, I’m convinced it’s another woman”.  “When she says she’s going for a drink after work, I start to feel sick with dread…” “I used to be quite independent.  Now I can barely concentrate for…
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One Wish

I have often thought over the years that if I had just one wish what would that be? What would I change, do different or ask for? Many times I've daydreamed about one thing or another and thought my life would be better, more complete, happier,…