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Swapping Toxic Communication for Healthy Dialogue - How to heal your relationship and change the way you talk.

At LoveRelations, we ask couples who come to us: “What do you argue about most?”  The answers we receive are almost universal: children, money, too much time spent at work/with friends.  There are, sadly, a handful of flashpoints such…
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Addiction and Relationships – How do we repair and relationship when alcohol and drugs are involved?

 Treatment for alcohol and drug problems is far more accessible these days.  Most GPs and healthcare providers have both the training and resources to spot problem drinking and drug abuse, and to offer helpful interventions.  The NHS provides…
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PTSD After an Affair?

Affair recovery forms a large part of our work at LoveRelations. About half the couples we work with are seeking help after the disclosure or discovery of some sort of infidelity. There is always a lot of pain and anger from both parties,…
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Money and Relationships

Money, despite what any of us want to believe about “love conquering all”, matters more than almost other issue in relationships.  According to one US survey, money is the number one issue married couples fight about.  In the UK, money…
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Beyond Binary – Secrets, shame and the non-hetero-normal

Secrets and shame can seem like the vert landscape of couples psychotherapy.  At LoveRelations, we work with couples from all walks of life – married, co-habiting, same-sex, mixed race, none of the above.  Many come and talk about “lack…
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Sex, shame and silence

There is no area of behaviour that human beings feel more shame around than sex. We can perhaps understand some of the origins of this culture of shame when we look at the historical values of religion or even modern sex education, with its…
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The Reality Distortion Field When in the Fog of an Affair.

Week in week out I sit across from clients that are blinded, paralysed and entombed by the fog of an affair. These include the overwhelming feelings of infatuation and limerence, the latter being a debilitating condition involving romantic longing…
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Blended Families – The Impact of a Partner’s Children on your Relationship

There are no clear statistics on step-families in the UK, but recent estimates suggest that one-in-four families is a “blended family” ie where a couple lives with one or more children from a previous relationship. Parenting brings challenges…
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The Seven Issues That Make Or Break A Relationship

“What’s the key to a good relationship?” is one the of questions we are often asked at LoveRelations. “Finding your partner attractive? No money worries? Shared interests?” While these are all important, there are seven issues or Relationship…