Symptoms of Limerence

The following are the main symptoms seen with limerence

  •  Intrusive and obsessive thinking about the LO

    • Spending more time thinking about LO than anyone or anything else
    • Difficulty avoiding, reducing, stopping focusing and concentrating on LO, despite voluntary control
    • Distractibility to the point where relationships and responsibilities are compromised
    • Persistent, exaggerated positive or negative interpretations of LO’s cues
  • Replay and rehearsal

    • High sensitivity to LO’s behavioural cues
    • More often than not, constantly replaying events that have already occurred involving interactions with LO
    • More often than not, constantly anticipating/rehearsing events that have yet to occur involving interactions with LO
    • More often than not, constantly imagining vivid experiences in which LO reciprocates feelings and intentions
    • More often than not, such imagined experiences create feelings of hopefulness for reciprocation from LO, driving excessive and unreasonable behaviours/reactions
    • More often than not, these actions compromise efficiency/productivity
  • Anxiety and self-consciousness

    • Make constant attempts to present self (e.g., in physical appearance, behaviour and attitude) most favourably to LO
    • Physiological symptoms accompanying feelings of shyness, embarrassment, and anxiety (e.g., shortness of breath, perspiration, heart palpitations)
    • Aching/pain in the chest or abdominal regions are intensified with increased uncertainty and/or increased signs of rejection by LO
    • Socially inept in the presence of LO (e.g., stuttering, clumsiness, awkward behaviour)
    • Shyness, embarrassment, and anxiety are heightened in the actual or imagined presence of LO
    • Strong, persistent, enduring fear of being rejected by LO
  • Emotional dependence

    • Strong, persistent, enduring yearning for reciprocation from LO
    • Feelings of depression and/or apprehension are intensified with increased uncertainty and/or increased signs of rejection by LO
    • Feelings of ecstasy are intensified with signs of reciprocation by LO
    • Affective lability
    • Longing and yearning for reciprocation are heightened and intensified with uncertainty of status of LO’s feelings
    • Longing and yearning for reciprocation are heightened and intensified in the presence of situational barriers (e.g., LO takes a new job, LO moves out of town, LO’s schedule interferes with or prevents spending time together)
  • Impaired functioning
    • Significant relationships and responsibilities are compromised due to preoccupation on LO

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